Folks, it's time for the heart. We need to talk about your understanding of your lady's "little man in the boat."
That's right, clitoris. It's sad to say. most men do not really understand this tiny hump of the physical delight with which nature has delighted women. The clitoris is the ONLY organ of the human body that has absolutely no purpose discovered by medical science other than to give a woman the highest possible natural physical pleasure.
Consider that the clitoris, that tiny nut that is the neck of women's orgasms, has over eight thousand nerve endings. Yes, 8,000! This is twice as much as in the head of your penis. Now also note that these eight thousand nerve endings are collected as close as possible to an area smaller than a pencil eraser, although the size of the clitoris varies greatly. However, the clitoris is small and oh so incredibly sensitive, so it needs to be approached gently and with much more patience than your arrogant, eager penis who is always ready to accept what he can get.
In other words, guys? It's not a cheeseburger, and you have to go slow!
One of the first mistakes even well-meaning men make during foreplay in trying to get their ladies' juices flowing is to immediately leave their tongue like a starving seagull, making strong jerks at our most sensitive center of existence.
Well, we know you mean well, but … WRONG! It's too early in the game, and direct and strong clitoral stimulation like that will be preserved for later, if any, and should always be done gradually.
Instead, concentrate on creasing and caressing, and light and gentle passionate chat. While a little off topic, start rubbing her back or massage, massage your feet, admire her and gently appreciate her breasts. And kiss her! Let her know you love her.
At some point in your lovemaking, you will naturally gravitate to the delicacies of oral pleasure, and as much as you love to sip your boobs, try to be fair about who goes to this area in the first place. You guys find it easier to know, and your orgasm is almost a guarantee, while many, if not most, women need things to be done in a more equitable way to cope at all. Although nature is, some say, more than offset by giving women an incredible gift of ability to have multiple orgasms.
Now, back to the center of your universe. Instead of making a bee line and fiercely attacking your clitoris, start by admiring the whole environment first. Gently knead the area above with your fingers. Massage along the sides of the vagina. Start by giving gentle kisses to these areas, then gently plant kisses all over the area, perhaps even quietly blowing here and there.
At this point, DO NOT push half of your hand into it, okay? Instead, be aware of her body and how she likes it. If you hear a quiet sigh or moan when doing something special? Do it AGAIN. If her hips are hungry for you? You're making a good impression.
When you know she wants more, then you can start engaging in this sweet nub of pleasure. Gently kiss him at first, bang him lightly. Gently push it back and forth without touching it directly. Then, slowly release your tongue, and we mean HIM, wave it several times. Moisten a finger or two with saliva and try to caress, but not first. Massage the hood at first. Make her want more.
If she responds pleasantly, and her body movements should tell you yes or no, slowly build up the action. When does he orally tell you that something special feels right? Keep doing it. Sometimes her signs will be off-label, and those clues are just as good. Repeat rules when this happens, but you will need to learn how far and long it takes to get bored or insensitive.
From time to time, rest and give yourself a kiss and briefly shift your attention to another area of her body, anywhere, just do something nice to her breasts or thighs, or briefly pull up and kiss her, ask her to like her.
Then? Come back and do some more. A finger or two inside the vagina as well as licking her lips is appropriate at this stage. If you know how to find her point G (and if you don't, we'll turn to it another time). Different ways you use the language on her clit. Kneel it gently, jerk it gently, or even quickly, back and forth or up and down, take long wide cheekbones with a flat tongue. And when does she like something? Do it again and again. And remember that for the future.
At some point, if things go well, it looks like her clit will disappear, hiding under the hood. This is a good thing, and it means it's on the verge of cumming. Continue fast here and continue to do what you do and get ready to enjoy her fall into the land of "la petit mort" what the French call "little death."
Female orgasm is perhaps one of the most beautiful things in the world to witness, and consider yourself to be at the heart of it, even if you have contributed to it.
All women cum differently, but in general, their orgasm is a series of involuntary spasms, from three to fifteen convulsions in the anus, pelvic, uterine and vaginal muscles, glorius rides of pleasant waves.
Women can have more of them, too. But don't be jealous. Learn to please her, and her natural gratitude will flow from her in her mutual desires to afford you more than ever before. A man who learns this and shows that he truly loves it will never be lonely forever.